Strike Up The Band...

Today I take the time to rejoice in my friend’s fortune. It’s been a long time coming and she really deserves it. It is really nice to see the world do good things to good people. Sometimes I have doubts about weather or not there is such a thing as karma and good people prevailing in this world….but today my faith in those things were re-confirmed. Congratulations my dear friend, I wish you the best in everything you do.

With that said… this wonderful event in my friends life brings to my attention something I’m missing in my life currently. As I sat with my friend tonight and talked to her about her budding relationship, it took me back to the days when my boyfriend and I were just getting to know each other. How wonderfully exciting and new everything was back then, when just a touch of the hand or quick glance was a big deal. When we would talk for hours never get bored, constantly learning, always something new. When every time we spent time together I wished we never had to part.

Nowadays things are a bit different. Our relationship is as strong as ever and over the years we have grown to love each other more than anything in the world, but those small things that were so exciting and full of for lack of a better word “magic” are few and far between. It’s times like these when I look back on those old times and long to experience that excitement again, the butterflies in my stomach, and loss for words I felt when I looked his way for the pure fact of amazement he would want to be with me, reveling in my own fortune. Reflecting back on these moments make me feel so…  old. The fact that my boyfriend and I have been together for almost three and a half years gives me this feeling of, boring old married couple, but without the wisdom that comes with it.

Maybe I should look at it from a different point of view. Maybe I should not be focusing on the old days, but rather the blessings I have from being with him for so long. How comfortable we are around each other, how close we have become, how far our relationship has come and what we have learned from each other. I know I’m a very lucky person to have someone special in my life. And I am, I really am. But I can’t help but look back and miss the beginning….

There are times when I feel being honest is not always the best way to go, at least when honesty isn’t asked for. Sometimes when offering an opinion, it is best to think weather or not it is going to  hurt someones feelings before you say it. When considering offering an opinion I think you need to be sensitive to that person may take it. Even if you think it’s for the best and you are just trying to help, it’s not going to help if it end’s up hurting their feelings, bruising their egos, and bringing them down. I think it is possible to helping out a friend without being insensitive. So next time you consider giving you opinion, think about what you are saying and how it’s going to effect others before you do.